Tips on how men can deal with a partner who is constantly nagging

Every society has had its own form of cruel and unusual punishment. The Chinese had water torture, the English had the rack, and women have nagging (at least that’s what men would say!). Although preferable to being drawn and quartered, nagging is certainly no easier on the soul. Naggers always know what they are doing. They weigh up the risks and then they go on and on and on until they get what they want.
Fortunately, halting your partner’s constant whining is easier than you think. Simply follow the suggestions below and you’ll be leading a stress-free existence in no time.

Agree with her

By simply acknowledging the validity of her complaints you’ll be able to buy yourself invaluable time. Granted, the problems won’t be any closer to being resolved, but she’ll be so pleased that you’ve come around to her way of thinking that she’ll temporarily let you off the hook.

Tune it out

When she cranks up the volume of her whining, crank up the volume on your stereo or, better yet, simply zone out altogether. Be forewarned, however, that nagging is a lot like the clap; ignoring it won’t make it go away. Tuning her out may be a decent short-term solution.

Pick your battles

Sometimes you have to know when a battle is worth fighting, and when surrendering is more advantageous. If she gripes about you leaving your dirty dishes in the sink, never taking out the dog, and six other unpardonable offences, raise your little white flag. It is better to surrender than fight.

Meet deadlines

You’re watching your favourite sport and she won’t stop harping about replacing the light bulbs in the kitchen. Just assure her it will be done during halftime or, more specifically, as soon as the game ends — and then do it. In the future, she’ll know there’s no need to nag you because you always come through on your promise.

Affection works

Next time she kicks her whining into high gear, kiss her affectionately and try to divert her attention with your best moves. Over time, she’ll equate nagging with romantic interludes.

Communicate

Communication is the most effective tool. The next time she starts nagging you, ask her to take a five-minute time out and consider whether she’s truly angry about your lack of cleanliness or whether there’s a bigger issue at hand. Chances are there is something bigger on her mind, and this tactic might bring it to light.

Take it or leave it

If she nags about the fact that she doesn’t want you to see your best friend or that you always work late, tell her there are some things in your life she’ll have to accept if she loves you. Given the choice of accepting your faults or losing you altogether, she’ll most likely make the decision to stick it out. And if she doesn’t, she wasn’t worth keeping anyway.

Take a break

Unlike salt and pepper shakers, humans aren’t always meant to be side-by-side. By taking a break from one another, you’ll be able to better appreciate the qualities that brought you together in the first place. Does absence really make the heart grow fonder? Maybe not, but abstinence certainly does, and this is your chance to find out.

Shape Up

Granted, nagging is a horrible way of communicating, but she does have a point about not hanging your underwear on the lampshades and it has been weeks since you emptied the trash. Listen to what she’s saying and see if you can address the issues that concern her most. Even if you’re unwilling to change your habits, you can always arrive at an alternative, like hiring a maid.
Believe it or not, you have the power to stop your partner’s nagging. If her grumbling is justified, take care of whatever it is that’s annoying her. If, on the other hand, you’re unable to please her, cut your losses and move on. It takes two to make a relationship work.

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